The real truth about being single
First off, in case it isn’t obvious yet, I’m a young single woman.
‘Kay, now that that’s out of the way…
I always click on these articles that “promise” to tell you exactly what being single is like. They always disappoint.
It seems that they are either one extreme or another. Something like: “I choose to be single. Stop telling me I need a man.” Or “I really don’t like being single, but I’m just sitting back and waiting for God to send prince charming to my doorstep.”
Maybe some people feel that way, but I’ve never especially felt that I fit into either category.
Truthfully, I feel very much in between and I know a lot of others who feel the same.
Some days, I wish I had a cute picture of me and my boyfriend as my phone background, or to go on fun dates, or steal his sweatshirt.
Other days, I’m thankful I can do whatever I want on the weekends. I’m content with the fact that I can come and go as I please. And if I choose to take a new job and move across the country, not much is stopping me. It’s this constant struggle between “man I wish I had a boyfriend” and “thank God I don’t have a boyfriend.”
For me personally, I don’t have some defect that means no one wants to date me. But I also don’t necessarily choose to be single either.
At risk of sounding cliche, I just haven’t found the right person yet.
I believe that God does have a plan for my life. And I believe it’s possible that that life includes a soul mate, but I’m also not really into the whole “One day God will bring you the perfect man. Just keep waiting (and waiting… and waiting…)”
I try not to just sit back and do nothing while waiting for God. I am certainly no “Husband hunter” but I do enjoy getting out and meeting new people.
Ladies and Gents, If you’re single like me this Valentine’s day, don’t sweat it. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that any day God is going drop your perfect guy (or girl) out of the sky though.
There is certainly something to be said about waiting for God, but I would encourage you to seek out new friendships, don’t just stay in your comfort zone. Visit different Bible study groups, be brave and talk to strangers (This one scares me most! #introvert), engage with people rather than just sitting and waiting all the time.
If you’re single and don’t want a relationship currently, that is so totally okay! This world we live in often tries to tell everyone that being single is the worst fate you could possibly endure. Don’t surrender to the lie, stay strong, enjoy this time of your life and use it to keeping seeking God and HIS plan, rather than just your own (Actually, seek God’s plan whether you’re in a relationship or not… but you get what I mean.)
And for those of you reading this who are dating/engaged/married…
I see articles like “How to ‘treat’ your single friends.”
Y’all, we ain’t crazy or have a death sentence. Just treat us like people. However, here are a few things I wish more people knew…
1) If you’re in a relationship, that’s totally fine! As long as you don’t talk about your S.O. and nothing else, you don’t have to feel bad about the fact that you’re in a relationship and I’m not.
2) Don’t constantly try to set me up. It can get annoying. BUT if you know someone that you honestly think might be a match, I’m really not opposed to grabbing coffee on a group date or something.
3) STOP SAYING “I’M SURE YOUR TIME WILL COME.”
4)Unless you’re my best friend, when I announce I’m moving somewhere new, please do not say “Oh, I’m sure you’ll be coming home with a husband!”
5) This one is HUGE for me. If you’re in a romantic relationship, please don’t let all of your other friendships go. I’ve actually been hurt pretty badly because I’ve had friends who get boyfriends, and all of a sudden the years we’ve spent together as friends flys out the window and I never talk to them again. That sucks. Don’t be that person.
6)Lastly, know that a world exists outside of relationships. I know, it’s hard to imagine. But it’s true. And it’s actually a pretty cool world.
So, there you have it. There is a compressed post exactly how I feel about being single.
Did I miss anything? Do you agree or disagree? Drop a comment!